• About the Author

StartingOverNow's Blog

~ Helping people reinvent their lives so they can break through to balance and financial abundance

StartingOverNow's Blog

Monthly Archives: May 2012

Honored to have been featured as an exec

31 Thursday May 2012

Posted by startingovernow in Uncategorized

≈ Leave a comment

Honored to have been featured as an executive coach in the June issue of Money Magazine. http://ow.ly/bgLmJ

Avoid the “I’d be happy if only I coul

24 Thursday May 2012

Posted by startingovernow in Uncategorized

≈ Leave a comment

Avoid the “I’d be happy if only I could get more of…” Trap” http://ow.ly/b83uF

Day #63: Visit Your Default Future

22 Tuesday May 2012

Posted by startingovernow in Being Valued, Building Relationships, Career Change, Don't be Afraid, Getting Unstuck, How to Build Confidence, Leadership, Overcoming Adversity, Productivity, Time Management, Work Life Balance

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

anxiety, anxiousness, don't be afraid, don't be afraid, executive coach, executive coaching, Getting over fear, getting unstuck, how to get over fear, I can't stand being afraid any more, I'm stuck, life coach, Mary Lee Gannon, Pittsburgh

365 Ways to Get Results: Day #36 – Visit Your Default Future

What do you worry about? You know the picture. It has been running over and over in your mind since you started to worry about it. The detail is so vivid that at times it takes your breath away. Anxiety over it wakes you up at night. You perseverate on it in your mind or with your friends. Your heart races and you lose your breath when the threat of it is imminent.

So let’s bring this negative image into even clearer focus.

Put yourself right in the middle of the picture. Step into the storm. Use vibrant language to describe the scene. Experience the surroundings – not looking at yourself but facing the scene from behind your own eyes. What do you see? What does it smell like to be in this place? What does it feel like? Who is there? What do you taste? What sounds do you hear?

When you tangibly describe and allow yourself to undergo the worst case scenario of your fears, you will be more motivated to change what you can to eliminate the anxiety over it.

Embrace the experience of what it is like to be in the depths of your biggest worry. Sit with the pain of it for a moment. Allow it to penetrate your skin to your soul. Live the experience. Breathe it in. Exhale the dissatisfaction, hurt and disappointment.

What values do you have that you can apply to make a change in your behavior? What do you remember about yourself that can make a difference here?

Truly encompassing an imaginary experience of your biggest fear desensitizes you from it. We fear what we don’t know. We handle what we do know.

Email this link to a friend.

Follow Mary Lee Gannon on Facebook, LinkedIn or on Twitter.

Get Mary Lee’s tips on Feel the Fear – How to Build Self Confidence on her Articles and Tip Sheets page.

Mary Lee Gannon is the president of StartingOverNow.com – Leading Productivity Solutions for People and Organizations. With more than 16 years of experience as a CEO of organizations with up to $26 million in assets, Mary Lee consults with businesses on strategy. She is a graduate of The Duquesne University Professional Coaching Program and an alumnus of the 2010 Harvard Medical School and McLean Hospital Coaching in Medicine & Leadership Conference. Her personal urnaround came as a stay-at-home mother with four children under seven-years-old who endured a divorce that took she and the children from the country club life to public assistance from where she earned success to support her family. Services include: Workshops, Meeting Facilitation, Coaching, Webinars, Speaking and Management Consulting. Areas of Specialty: Strategic Planning / Board Development / Healthcare / Public Relations / Goal Setting / Meeting Facilitation / Training / Leadership / Time Management / Life/Career Transition. Her book “Starting Over – 25 Rules for When You’ve Bottomed Out” is available in bookstores or at Amazon. Get her FREE ebook – “Grow Productivity – A Leader’s Toolbox” on her web site at www.StartingOverNow.com.

Day #62: Avoid the “I’d be happy if only I could get more of…” Trap

15 Tuesday May 2012

Posted by startingovernow in Being Valued, Building Relationships, Career Change, Don't be Afraid, Easy More Money Strategies, Getting Unstuck, How to Build Confidence, Leadership, Overcoming Adversity, Prioritizing Money, Productivity, Time Management, Work Life Balance

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

5 year plan, change, executive coaching, free coaching session, getting what you want out of life, Goal setting, Mary Lee Gannon, Pittsburgh, starting over

365 Ways to Get ResultS: Day #62 – If only I could get more of…(+ FREE Coaching Offer)

You want something in your life that you don’t have. What a surprise. And you think you know what it is. More time? More love? A better job? A better boss? A thinner body? A fatter wallet? Not only do you know what it is, you are certain that if you catch it like Willie Mays hauled in Vic Wertz’s drive at the warning track in 1954 your World Series ring will assure you a field of dreams come true. If only you could “get” what you want you would be happy. Right? Has it worked yet?

Instead of simply focusing on what you think you want, go one step further and ask yourself “what does (more love…money…thin?) – mean? In this line of reasoning lies a values based answer instead of a superficial proposition that is insatiable. When you ask yourself,” What will this change in my life – what does it mean?” you are focusing on values. Values, not “Get Lists” bring fulfillment.

What will having more time change your life? A greater ability to focus on the things that really matter to you? What are those things? Family? Travel? A loved one? A new business? A better balanced life? Playing an instrument? Art? These are values. Time is not a value.

What will more love mean? Is it that love from another makes you feel better about yourself? Who defines how you feel about yourself? Or does feeling more love come from giving more love? What do you really want to work on?

What will it mean to get a better job? Better challenge? Better ability to learn? Better ability to try new things? Work that is purposeful? What is purposeful to you? These are values.

What will being thinner mean? More attention? What does more attention mean? Feeling better about yourself? What would make you feel better about yourself? Better health? Better diet? Being able to be more active? Values.

What will having more money mean? Security? What does security mean to you? Not having to worry that you won’t have enough money to take care of yourself or your family? Is the value family? What does the family value? What is enough?

If what makes you happy includes “Get” items you will always be working from a “Get List.” Toss the “Get List” over the center field wall and replace it with values activities whereby your emotions will breathe a sigh of relief while giving you a standing ovation. Batter up!

FREE Coachng Session Offer:

You never thought it would happen but here you are – not sure of what to do next and the parylization has cost you time, money, love, personal satisfaction and freedom. You are afraid. You are rejected. You are hurting. You feel helpless, disappointed and inept. You are ready to move forward in your personal life or business but doubt and indecision keep calling you back. Now is the time to decide that your happiness has been on the back burner long enough.

If you are not 100% satisfied by the life you are leading or the success of your business or the richness of your relationships…then you OWE IT to yourself to email Mary Lee now for a FREE 30 minute coaching session on how to change course at marylee@startingovernow.com or by going to www.startingovernow.com/Contact_Us.html. Just mention “Free coaching session” in the subject line.

Mary Lee Gannon is the president of StartingOverNow.com – Leading Productivity Solutions for People and Organizations. With more than 16 years of experience as a CEO of organizations with up to $26 million in assets, Mary Lee consults with businesses on strategy. She is a graduate of The Duquesne University Professional Coaching Program and an alumnus of the 2010 Harvard Medical School and McLean Hospital Coaching in Medicine & Leadership Conference. Her personal urnaround came as a stay-at-home mother with four children under seven-years-old who endured a divorce that took she and the children from the country club life to public assistance from where she earned success to support her family. Services include: Workshops, Meeting Facilitation, Coaching, Webinars, Speaking and Management Consulting. Areas of Specialty: Strategic Planning / Board Development / Healthcare / Public Relations / Goal Setting / Meeting Facilitation / Training / Leadership / Time Management / Life/Career Transition. Her book “Starting Over – 25 Rules for When You’ve Bottomed Out” is available in bookstores or at Amazon. Get her FREE ebook – “Grow Productivity – A Leader’s Toolbox” on her web site at www.StartingOverNow.com.

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Join 32 other followers

RSS Starting Over Now’s Blog

  • When the Problem is You http://ow.ly/9uB May 13, 2016
    When the Problem is You http://ow.ly/9uBw300bdj8
    startingovernow
  • REALLY EXCITED!!! I just launched my FRE May 6, 2016
    REALLY EXCITED!!! I just launched my FREE BOOK AND FREE 7-Day LEADERSHIP CHALLENGE COURSE and my inbox is full of …Continue reading →
    startingovernow
  • Get off the treadmill to nowhere with th November 10, 2015
    Get off the treadmill to nowhere with this FREE webinar on how May Lee went from welfare to CEO of …Continue reading →
    startingovernow
  • Calling All Leaders, Career Advancers an October 19, 2015
    Calling All Leaders, Career Advancers and Those Ready for the Next Life Phase! Transform Your Career & Life Oct 24th …Continue reading →
    startingovernow

Archives

  • May 2016
  • November 2015
  • October 2015
  • September 2015
  • August 2015
  • May 2015
  • April 2015
  • March 2015
  • December 2014
  • November 2014
  • October 2014
  • September 2014
  • August 2014
  • July 2014
  • June 2014
  • May 2014
  • April 2014
  • March 2014
  • February 2014
  • January 2014
  • December 2013
  • November 2013
  • October 2013
  • September 2013
  • August 2013
  • July 2013
  • June 2013
  • May 2013
  • April 2013
  • March 2013
  • February 2013
  • January 2013
  • December 2012
  • November 2012
  • October 2012
  • September 2012
  • August 2012
  • July 2012
  • June 2012
  • May 2012
  • April 2012
  • March 2012
  • February 2012
  • January 2012
  • December 2011
  • November 2011
  • October 2011
  • September 2011
  • August 2011
  • July 2011
  • June 2011
  • May 2011
  • April 2011
  • March 2011
  • February 2011
  • January 2011
  • December 2010
  • November 2010
  • October 2010
  • September 2010
  • August 2010
  • July 2010
  • June 2010
  • May 2010
  • April 2010
  • March 2010
  • February 2010
  • January 2010
  • December 2009
  • November 2009
  • October 2009
  • September 2009
  • August 2009
  • July 2009
  • June 2009
  • May 2009
  • April 2009
  • March 2009

Recent Comments

تنظيف شقق on Replace Simon and the Mad Hatt…
شركة تنظيف منازل بال… on Replace Simon and the Mad Hatt…
www.michaelnoblebank… on Seven Killer Ground Rules for…
kat.ph on Seven Killer Ground Rules for…
health on Personality Tests

Create a free website or blog at WordPress.com.

Privacy & Cookies: This site uses cookies. By continuing to use this website, you agree to their use.
To find out more, including how to control cookies, see here: Cookie Policy