Honored to have been featured as an exec

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Avoid the “I’d be happy if only I coul

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Day #63: Visit Your Default Future

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365 Ways to Get Results: Day #36 – Visit Your Default Future

What do you worry about? You know the picture. It has been running over and over in your mind since you started to worry about it. The detail is so vivid that at times it takes your breath away. Anxiety over it wakes you up at night. You perseverate on it in your mind or with your friends. Your heart races and you lose your breath when the threat of it is imminent.

So let’s bring this negative image into even clearer focus.

Put yourself right in the middle of the picture. Step into the storm. Use vibrant language to describe the scene. Experience the surroundings – not looking at yourself but facing the scene from behind your own eyes. What do you see? What does it smell like to be in this place? What does it feel like? Who is there? What do you taste? What sounds do you hear?

When you tangibly describe and allow yourself to undergo the worst case scenario of your fears, you will be more motivated to change what you can to eliminate the anxiety over it.

Embrace the experience of what it is like to be in the depths of your biggest worry. Sit with the pain of it for a moment. Allow it to penetrate your skin to your soul. Live the experience. Breathe it in. Exhale the dissatisfaction, hurt and disappointment.

What values do you have that you can apply to make a change in your behavior? What do you remember about yourself that can make a difference here?

Truly encompassing an imaginary experience of your biggest fear desensitizes you from it. We fear what we don’t know. We handle what we do know.

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Mary Lee Gannon is the president of StartingOverNow.com – Leading Productivity Solutions for People and Organizations. With more than 16 years of experience as a CEO of organizations with up to $26 million in assets, Mary Lee consults with businesses on strategy. She is a graduate of The Duquesne University Professional Coaching Program and an alumnus of the 2010 Harvard Medical School and McLean Hospital Coaching in Medicine & Leadership Conference. Her personal urnaround came as a stay-at-home mother with four children under seven-years-old who endured a divorce that took she and the children from the country club life to public assistance from where she earned success to support her family. Services include: Workshops, Meeting Facilitation, Coaching, Webinars, Speaking and Management Consulting. Areas of Specialty: Strategic Planning / Board Development / Healthcare / Public Relations / Goal Setting / Meeting Facilitation / Training / Leadership / Time Management / Life/Career Transition. Her book “Starting Over – 25 Rules for When You’ve Bottomed Out” is available in bookstores or at Amazon. Get her FREE ebook – “Grow Productivity – A Leader’s Toolbox” on her web site at www.StartingOverNow.com.

Day #62: Avoid the “I’d be happy if only I could get more of…” Trap

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365 Ways to Get ResultS: Day #62 – If only I could get more of…(+ FREE Coaching Offer)

You want something in your life that you don’t have. What a surprise. And you think you know what it is. More time? More love? A better job? A better boss? A thinner body? A fatter wallet? Not only do you know what it is, you are certain that if you catch it like Willie Mays hauled in Vic Wertz’s drive at the warning track in 1954 your World Series ring will assure you a field of dreams come true. If only you could “get” what you want you would be happy. Right? Has it worked yet?

Instead of simply focusing on what you think you want, go one step further and ask yourself “what does (more love…money…thin?) – mean? In this line of reasoning lies a values based answer instead of a superficial proposition that is insatiable. When you ask yourself,” What will this change in my life – what does it mean?” you are focusing on values. Values, not “Get Lists” bring fulfillment.

What will having more time change your life? A greater ability to focus on the things that really matter to you? What are those things? Family? Travel? A loved one? A new business? A better balanced life? Playing an instrument? Art? These are values. Time is not a value.

What will more love mean? Is it that love from another makes you feel better about yourself? Who defines how you feel about yourself? Or does feeling more love come from giving more love? What do you really want to work on?

What will it mean to get a better job? Better challenge? Better ability to learn? Better ability to try new things? Work that is purposeful? What is purposeful to you? These are values.

What will being thinner mean? More attention? What does more attention mean? Feeling better about yourself? What would make you feel better about yourself? Better health? Better diet? Being able to be more active? Values.

What will having more money mean? Security? What does security mean to you? Not having to worry that you won’t have enough money to take care of yourself or your family? Is the value family? What does the family value? What is enough?

If what makes you happy includes “Get” items you will always be working from a “Get List.” Toss the “Get List” over the center field wall and replace it with values activities whereby your emotions will breathe a sigh of relief while giving you a standing ovation. Batter up!

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You never thought it would happen but here you are – not sure of what to do next and the parylization has cost you time, money, love, personal satisfaction and freedom. You are afraid. You are rejected. You are hurting. You feel helpless, disappointed and inept. You are ready to move forward in your personal life or business but doubt and indecision keep calling you back. Now is the time to decide that your happiness has been on the back burner long enough.

If you are not 100% satisfied by the life you are leading or the success of your business or the richness of your relationships…then you OWE IT to yourself to email Mary Lee now for a FREE 30 minute coaching session on how to change course at marylee@startingovernow.com or by going to www.startingovernow.com/Contact_Us.html. Just mention “Free coaching session” in the subject line.

Mary Lee Gannon is the president of StartingOverNow.com – Leading Productivity Solutions for People and Organizations. With more than 16 years of experience as a CEO of organizations with up to $26 million in assets, Mary Lee consults with businesses on strategy. She is a graduate of The Duquesne University Professional Coaching Program and an alumnus of the 2010 Harvard Medical School and McLean Hospital Coaching in Medicine & Leadership Conference. Her personal urnaround came as a stay-at-home mother with four children under seven-years-old who endured a divorce that took she and the children from the country club life to public assistance from where she earned success to support her family. Services include: Workshops, Meeting Facilitation, Coaching, Webinars, Speaking and Management Consulting. Areas of Specialty: Strategic Planning / Board Development / Healthcare / Public Relations / Goal Setting / Meeting Facilitation / Training / Leadership / Time Management / Life/Career Transition. Her book “Starting Over – 25 Rules for When You’ve Bottomed Out” is available in bookstores or at Amazon. Get her FREE ebook – “Grow Productivity – A Leader’s Toolbox” on her web site at www.StartingOverNow.com.