365 Ways to Get ResultS: Day #62 – If only I could get more of…(+ FREE Coaching Offer)
You want something in your life that you don’t have. What a surprise. And you think you know what it is. More time? More love? A better job? A better boss? A thinner body? A fatter wallet? Not only do you know what it is, you are certain that if you catch it like Willie Mays hauled in Vic Wertz’s drive at the warning track in 1954 your World Series ring will assure you a field of dreams come true. If only you could “get” what you want you would be happy. Right? Has it worked yet?
Instead of simply focusing on what you think you want, go one step further and ask yourself “what does (more love…money…thin?) – mean? In this line of reasoning lies a values based answer instead of a superficial proposition that is insatiable. When you ask yourself,” What will this change in my life – what does it mean?” you are focusing on values. Values, not “Get Lists” bring fulfillment.
What will having more time change your life? A greater ability to focus on the things that really matter to you? What are those things? Family? Travel? A loved one? A new business? A better balanced life? Playing an instrument? Art? These are values. Time is not a value.
What will more love mean? Is it that love from another makes you feel better about yourself? Who defines how you feel about yourself? Or does feeling more love come from giving more love? What do you really want to work on?
What will it mean to get a better job? Better challenge? Better ability to learn? Better ability to try new things? Work that is purposeful? What is purposeful to you? These are values.
What will being thinner mean? More attention? What does more attention mean? Feeling better about yourself? What would make you feel better about yourself? Better health? Better diet? Being able to be more active? Values.
What will having more money mean? Security? What does security mean to you? Not having to worry that you won’t have enough money to take care of yourself or your family? Is the value family? What does the family value? What is enough?
If what makes you happy includes “Get” items you will always be working from a “Get List.” Toss the “Get List” over the center field wall and replace it with values activities whereby your emotions will breathe a sigh of relief while giving you a standing ovation. Batter up!
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You never thought it would happen but here you are – not sure of what to do next and the parylization has cost you time, money, love, personal satisfaction and freedom. You are afraid. You are rejected. You are hurting. You feel helpless, disappointed and inept. You are ready to move forward in your personal life or business but doubt and indecision keep calling you back. Now is the time to decide that your happiness has been on the back burner long enough.
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Mary Lee Gannon is the president of StartingOverNow.com – Leading Productivity Solutions for People and Organizations. With more than 16 years of experience as a CEO of organizations with up to $26 million in assets, Mary Lee consults with businesses on strategy. She is a graduate of The Duquesne University Professional Coaching Program and an alumnus of the 2010 Harvard Medical School and McLean Hospital Coaching in Medicine & Leadership Conference. Her personal urnaround came as a stay-at-home mother with four children under seven-years-old who endured a divorce that took she and the children from the country club life to public assistance from where she earned success to support her family. Services include: Workshops, Meeting Facilitation, Coaching, Webinars, Speaking and Management Consulting. Areas of Specialty: Strategic Planning / Board Development / Healthcare / Public Relations / Goal Setting / Meeting Facilitation / Training / Leadership / Time Management / Life/Career Transition. Her book “Starting Over – 25 Rules for When You’ve Bottomed Out” is available in bookstores or at Amazon. Get her FREE ebook – “Grow Productivity – A Leader’s Toolbox” on her web site at www.StartingOverNow.com.